Category: Physics

“Throwing Glass, and Death by a Thousand Cuts.” A Dream Interpretation.

Dear Satya:

Q: I am on a rural farm or in a kind of carnival area and a girl in her late teens or early twenties has been chasing after me. She runs into a concession stand with a window that can shut. I want to vanquish her, to get her to stop. I have a dish towel that I’ve formed into a bag with glass shards in it. I throw the bag into the stand where she is. Just as I throw it, I realize I’ve given her ammo. She starts coming after me and the people around me, my boyfriend, family, and others who I want to protect. She’s trying to cut us with little bits of glass, throwing them at us one-by-one.

A: Thank you for sharing this dream, it’s an excellent one for demonstrating how our unconscious can show us parts of our behavior and attitudes of which we’re not yet consciously aware. Dreams come to us from the unconscious, but that doesn’t mean a place of just repressed memories or nonsense from the day. As I’ll explore with this dream, the unconscious, or “not-yet-conscious” mind, stores a great deal of information about the world and who we are that we’ve just not yet been able to see and integrate. Seeing what’s in “the back of the brain” can be like seeing your back in a mirror: it’s different than what you see every day when you see your front side, but it’s as much you as the other and it helps to provide a more complete picture of who you are.

In this dream, a girl is chasing you. Based on the content of what you told me about, I anticipated correctly that this young woman was either dark skinned or had dark hair. Why? Because you’re a blond woman, and the structure of this dream clearly indicates that this is a shadow figure for you. Dreams have patterns and a sort of physics to them that, once learned, can allow certain predictions on the actions and traits of characters involved.

So what does it mean that she’s a shadow figure for you? In the dream, your conscious attitude of yourself, represented by the “I” character, is in opposition to her. You two are in conflict. She represents an aspect of yourself that is in conflict with how you see yourself and your behavior, and she is trying to get your attention. When attempting to destroy her, your method of assault backfired, and instead of getting rid of her, you provided her with ammunition to hurt you and those you care about. There is a part of you that knows that an aspect of your character has been damaging those around you somehow, and the methods you’ve used so far to try to get rid of her have only caused more harm. This part of you is throwing shards of glass at your boyfriend and people you care about. One by one.

What does this mean? To be throwing shards of glass? That gesture of throwing shards, tiny pieces of glass, evokes a style of communication like nagging or picking, or saying little, mean comments. They’re “small” words, like comments from a teenage girl who doesn’t yet know the damage her words are causing. “They’re just little pieces of glass,” you might try to rationalize, but we know the phrase “death by a thousand cuts”; enough little jabs, and our relationships suffer. We can hurt people with accidental, emotional commentary. Sometimes, we can fool ourselves that our behavior with others is no big deal, but all of the emotions and mean comments build-up. We can end up attacking just the people we consciously see ourselves as intending to protect. Specifically, that the glass was wrapped in a dish towel suggests to me that these comments may be wrapped in the form of trying to help and “clean things up” somehow. It seems that wrapped inside your attempts to help others or make things better, may be comments that feel like criticisms instead.

I will share with our readers that we discussed this dream at some length, and you had some important insights about your communication, especially with your boyfriend. “I’m glad we talked about that glass,” you reported the next day. As the dreamer, you instinctively know what those symbols mean in your life. They speak to you personally once they’ve been explored. This isn’t heady intellectualism or nonsense symbology, it resonates. Perhaps now with some insight, you’ll be able to vanquish this attacking-girl for real. She was trying to get your attention, and she has. By acknowledging her, you can now truly protect those around you who have been in harm’s way.

 

Have you had a dream like this? Leave a comment and share!

Satya is a psychotherapist in private practice in Portland, Oregon specializing in dream work, the quarter-life crisis, and work with individuals in their 20s and 30s. www.QuarterLifeCounselor.com

“Synchronicity! I Dreamed of Her – and Then There She Was.” Time and Space and Dream Interpretation.

Dear Satya:

Q: The other night, I had a dream about a woman who I haven’t seen for probably seven years. I woke-up wondering why she was in my dream after all this time, but then that afternoon I was walking downtown and saw her across the street!! I couldn’t believe it. How is that possible?? Can you explain how I can dream of someone I haven’t seen in years and then see them later that day?!

A: Whoa. I can only imagine that this experience left you stunned. These kinds of experiences are bizarre and incredible, and we’ve all had versions of them: You have a dream about someone you haven’t spoken to in a while, and they call you the next day; or you find yourself thinking about a largely unknown musician and walk into a cafe to hear one of his songs playing. Usually, people notice these things, chalk them up to crazy coincidences, and forget about them. But this experience of yours is a big one! The coincidence itself is just too big, separated by years, and it does make you wonder: how the heck do these things happen?

Situations just like the one you describe were a phenomenon that Carl Jung termed synchronicity, a word we’re all now quite familiar with. The term and concept denote a seeming coincidence that is just too bizarre, and too meaningful, to be totally accidental. They are events that are statistical outliers, like a sudden mutation in evolutionary biology, that science cannot entirely explain but do nonetheless occur. These situations are seeming acausal; there is no way to explain how one event caused the other, or how something else caused both. As a result, they totally test our understanding of the way the world works and leave us a bit dumbfounded.

The connection point between these two events is you. The dream was yours alone, and the matter of that woman being out-and-about in town is, in itself, totally unremarkable. What is remarkable, however, is that the two events occurred in your awareness within a very short period of time. You are the connection point. So what does that mean?

Just like a magnet attracts iron to itself when charged, there is some suggestion in quantum physics that our own psychic lives, and the energetically charged complexes we carry around, can also make things move and occur without any known physical interaction. The dream originated from you, and you noticed the woman. It is possible that these two “events” occurred in your awareness because a complex of energy you have was triggered in some way. We certainly do not understand just yet how these synchronistic events occur, but I would put money on the fact that science will show us more in the coming decades about how they are, in fact, related and are not simply crazy happenstance.

Do you have a question about your dreams? Send me an email! satya@quarterlifecounselor.com

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Satya is a therapist in private practice in Portland, Oregon specializing in applicable dream work, the quarter-life crisis, and the stage of life between young adulthood and mid-life. www.quarterlifecounselor.com